Friends With Benefits

I find it fascinating how nowadays, in the world of dating, the most intimate parts of you are exposed within 48 hours. It’s as if we’re interviewing each other and your private parts are the bonus question on the quiz. At what point did we come to the conclusion that your attraction to a person was mainly on how their cash and prizes looked.

It’s seems as if the nerves hit you more so with a meet and greet, rather than sending dirty photos to one another. I am guilty of this. I have exchanged photos with men before I even looked them in the eye. Some I never even had to meet up with cause the mystery was gone. I saw his and he saw mine. What else was left to find out about each other?

Could it be possible that there are still folks out there who prefer dating the old fashion way? I’d like that kind of suspense building love and affection where people actually took the time to get to know you before trying to pursue you sexually. Where slow dances outweigh mattress dances. Where getting flowers was more often than touching my flower. A time when love notes were many and “you up” texts were nonexistent. Don’t get me wrong, we have needs and sometimes the mood strikes at midnight. Can’t we have a happy medium?

I feel as if I’ve debunked the code. It comes down to finding intimacy with your friends. A couple facts that you already know is that it’s safe. Most of them you’d consider to be your safe person.You also already like them because they are your friends. Your personalities mesh well and there’s a sense of protection with them.

Were these boundaries you couldn’t break just cause the word “friend” is in place. Absolutely not! The word doesn’t change or stop the act unless you let it. There’s no tether to them so you remain free of title and no feelings get hurt. Is it an exchange of service and goods? I would consider it to be because a need is being met while you are also meeting a need or offering a service for them.

It can be as cut and dry as that. Could you imagine intimacy in the safest way without the headache of what dating can bring to your life? Sounds like a dream. A wet dream in fact. So the next time you look at your friend who you find adorable or captivating, consider pursuing an act of service. Even if it’s counterfeit passion, its passion nonetheless.